I see you here looking for answers. I have this app on my phone, so when you visit at all times of the day and night, when you have had another experience of rejection, another No, another “make it quick,” I feel your pain and I wait for you to ask for my help…
Are you sitting there thinking, “I would do literally anything to change this relationship from cold to hot,” (who wants warm seriously?) Are you craving more intimacy, touch, want to feel that it’s ok to say, I want sex that is anything but a task or a duty, I want a conversation?
So what do you do? Well, you could watch more porn, read more books, talk to friends (oh no wait this is too private right?). OR you could ask someone with answers like me, to help you really turn a corner.
Turning around a relationship is not for the faint hearted; it takes work and you have to show up and yes YOU may need to change not just your partner. (This is not a drop off centre)
In the wise words of Esther Perel: “It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it.”
The clients I speak to say, “I would like change, BUT it will be like pulling teeth.” STOP IT that is a story you are making up in your head. I am an internationally recognised, British Sex Coach based in Henley on Thames in the UK specialising in THIS as a service. You need to know I am SEX POSITIVE and I believe sex is essential to our health, our vitality and our vibrant aliveness. I desire clients that want more pleasure in their lives as a whole, not just and end to misery.
You may have a story in your head that working with someone about sex is all doom and gloom. It’s sex! It’s fun! Yes, we have to go there, to all the tricky subjects that you avoid, BUT we learn, learn how to arouse, to touch, to speak, to heal, expand and plan. We laugh a lot!
Now what are you going to do next?